Going On Tilt & Becoming Emotionally Resilient [Mental Model]


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Having played, coached, and invested in online poker throughout my college years, the concept of “tilt” is one that I’m intimately familiar with.  While it’s not quite a mental model in the traditional sense of the word, tilt is a helpful way to view your emotional state in high-stakes environments.

What Is Tilt?

Tilt is a poker term for a state of mental or emotional confusion or frustration in which a player adopts a less than optimal strategy, usually resulting in the player becoming over-aggressive. – Wikipedia

Tilting usually occurs when you get an outcome that you did not want or expect – for instance, losing an all-in with AA, the best pre-flop hand in No-Limit Texas Hold’Em. Statistically you win that about 80% of the time, so the 20% of times that you do end up losing the hand can become emotionally frustrating.

One of my favorite quotes about tilt comes from Gigabet, an old poster on an old poker forum that I used to frequent:

“Everyone will eventually run worse [have worse luck] than they thought was possible. The difference between a winner and a loser is the latter thinks he doesn’t deserve it.”

There are many ways to trigger tilt in someone, all dependent on their emotional resilience and ability to recognize what’s happening to their emotional state in real-time. In poker, some of the following situations might cause a player to tilt:

  • Losing repeatedly to a “fish” (bad player) despite having him outclassed in skill and the odds on your side
  • Being bluffed off of the best hand
  • Folding (or misclicking online) when you have the best hand

And so on. Again, the primary trigger is when you’ve done something (or had something done to you) that is contrary to what you want – in poker, that’s winning the hand.

Although its origins are in the poker world, tilt is a very useful concept in many games of strategy, as well as in business and life.  In strategic video games tilt is becoming more and more recognized as a significant factor in quality of play, especially the real-time strategy genre where games like Starcraft II reign supreme.

Tilting Less = Instantly Improve

If you take nothing else out of this primer on tilt, know this: learning to tilt less allows you to beat your opponents more often without fundamentally improving at a game.

Imagine you’re playing tennis against your friend Jon. Here are the facts:

  • Jon is better than you at the fundamental skills of tennis
  • Your A game is his B game, so you will lose every game you play against him unless he is playing worse than his “B” game
  • He is hot headed and tilts easily
  • When he tilts, he plays his B game 70% of the time and his C game 30% of the time
  • You never tilt, so you play your A game 100% of the time

Now imagine playing 100 games against Jon where neither of you tilt. Because he’s playing his A game, he’ll beat you nearly 100/100 times.

But what if you could make Jon tilt? Now he plays his B game 70% of the time, which is equivalent to your A game. Let’s say that these games are a coin flip, so you win about half of them, or 35. But he also tilts really hard 30% of the time, and you beat him in all 30 of the games he plays this poorly.

You’ve gone from winning ~0/100 games to willing ~65/100 games, without getting better at tennis at all. Your ability to control your emotional state when playing Jon is what allows you to get the edge on him – and it has nothing to do with your raw tennis skills.

How To Stop Tilting

As with many negative emotional states, one of the best ways to counteract tilt is to simply realize that it’s happening to you.  One of the classic signs of tilt is a denial that it’s happening, or that you’re only ‘slightly tilted’ and can keep playing.

In games where outcomes are not tied directly to decisions (trading, poker, video games, business), decoupling your ego and self-worth from the results you achieve and instead investing them in the decisions you make is a good way to tilt-proof yourself.

For example, you empirically know that going all in with AA is going to make you money in the long run – so losing a single hand shouldn’t mean anything. After all, you are destined to lose 20% of the time in the long run.

If this way of thinking doesn’t quite work for you, there are practical strategies that can help as well. Often times what causes someone to tilt is the wild swings in success and failure, especially in a game like poker. If you play a strategy that reduces the severity of your swings, your emotions won’t swing as severely either. I like to think of this strategy as treating the symptoms and not the cause, but if that’s how you get started down the path, so be it.

How to Tilt Others

Another way to improve at strategic games is to increase the chances that your opponent tilts.  By doing this, you can hold your rate of tilting and your raw skills equal and still manufacture and edge in the game by decreasing the quality of play of your opponent.

Note: It might be against your ethics to engage in any of the strategies below (or any other strategies you concoct for other games), but they are useful to know to completely understand this mental model.

In poker, some common ways to put someone on tilt are:

  • Slow-rolling: Fake deliberation at the end of a hand when you are guaranteed to have the best hand.
  • Hustling: Pretending that you’re worse at the game than you are in order to encourage sub-optimal strategies by your opponents
  • Victimizing: Deliberately ribbing and making fun of a person at the table
  • Playing Loose and Cocky: In poker, playing hands with low post-flop value and hoping to land the cards you need on the flop, turn, and river can put some players on tilt as they get upset that you won with a ‘worse’ hand


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This article originally appeared on KevinEspiritu.com